We know that great sex is often accompanied by an emotional connection. Though it's fun to have a fling, there's something special about cultivating deeper feelings for someone and having that emotion expressed physically. What we often don't consider is the fact that that mindset should translate to sex with ourselves. It's so easy to fall into a routine when it comes to masturbation and forget that in order to take our sex lives with ourselves up a notch, we may need to dive deeper into our own self-love. Because this is so important to us, we decided to create journaling prompts that will hopefully make your time with yourself more meaningful and impactful. So make the space around you more comfortable, find a pen and paper, and charge your favorite Emojibator. Here are some self-inquiry questions designed to encourage self-love for better masturbation:
I am enough because...
To me, self-love looks like...
If I could be anywhere in the world I would be...
(How do you feel? What do you see, smell, and hear?)
I feel the most pleasure when I am...
Write a short (or long) love letter to your least favorite part of your body...
Now that you've completed these prompts, take some time to notice how you feel. You might feel a little vulnerable, maybe even raw. We would love to encourage you to go slow and explore these emotions deeper during your next masturbation session. Recognize that sex with yourself is a great opportunity to experience pleasure in your own way and learn more about how you can love yourself deeper.
Let's keep this conversation going. Let us know about your experience with these prompts by visiting our Instagram at @thehoeandthehopeless.
Kia and Debora are two black women who live in Philadelphia. On their comedic podcast “The Hoe and The Hopeless” they speak about dating in the city, past sexual experiences, mental/sexual health, and whatever they feel like that day. You can find them on Anchor, Spotify, Apple podcasts, and Instagram.