By Lauren Heller
I started masturbating at a young age. I would grind on the armrest of chairs and corners of beds. I didn't know what I was doing; I just knew it felt good. I remember trying to find a quick moment when the house was quiet, and my family was in another room of the house to do it. Sometimes I'd get away with it. Other times my parents would walk in and catch me. I would say, "I'm just doing my exorcizes." I don't remember them saying anything; I just knew I got caught doing something that felt awkward.
When I heard how others masturbated, I remember feeling shame that I wasn't using my hand, and it was weird that I was grinding on furniture. I remember getting drunk at a college party and telling my best friends how I did it and how it felt like such a big deal to spill the beans about how I masturbated. They didn't react much, and I thought, "hmmm, maybe this isn't a big deal."
As I got older, I started getting connected to my sexual truth. My sexual truth was to get off, I had to grind on furniture/pillows/toys, and I'm good with that. The more I learned about sex and the spectrum of ways people get off; I realized I didn't need to feel shameful around this. It's how I know how to give myself pleasure, and I really enjoy it. Accepting it also opens up a world of exploring pleasure for me.
I share this personal story to help others not feel alone in their masturbation practices. I am a sex coach and often get asked if their masturbation practices are normal and healthy. I follow the six principles of sexual health to guide others into what's right for them. 1. Consent 2. Non-Exploitative 3. Honest 4. Shared Values 5. Protected from STI, HIV, and Unwanted Pregnancy 6. Pleasure. As long as these principles are kept in mind, you can jerk off any way you want! And accepting the ways you get off will open the door to more pleasure.
About Lauren
Lauren is a sex coach working diligently to break down the stigma around sex. She has been in the mental health space for four years now, shifting her focus from art therapy to sex coaching. Lauren helps women who want to get in touch with their sexual truth by guiding women to deepen their relationship with themselves by exploring what they want from sex. To discover and communicate their wants and needs while exploring their bodies. She is a guide for women to have the sex they deserve!
How to Connect with Lauren
Instagram: Sexstuffwithlo
Web site: ohyeahcoaching.com
Work with Lauren: Sexual Truth Defined is a coaching program Lauren is currently offering, guiding women to define their Sexual Truth. Check out her website for more info.
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