By Melissa Vitale
It’s no secret that when you take some extra time to focus on your own needs and comfort, you operate better as a whole. When we perform self-care, the attention we give ourselves helps us address the concerns and problems punctuating the long days of the week.
One of the staples of my own self-care routine is a bath time-experience so luxurious and nourishing to my mind, body and mental state that it deserves the term “Goddess Night.”
Like the early 2000’s Venus commercials, I truly believe that every woman has the potential to be a goddess. As my dear friend, lifestyle and professional Domme Goddess Aviva says, a Goddess is “a woman in touch with her divinity, who expects the best in life, and then betters herself to get it.”
It’s easy to feel like a Goddess when everything is going your way in life. But crushed under the stress and anxiety caused by work, financial struggles or a recent relationship severance, it can be difficult to find sexual confidence and personal empowerment. Especially when our bodies are suffering from aches, tension, and other physical tolls, vivacity and divinity seem impossible to achieve. Often times, the difference between feeling radiant and confident or sluggish and self-conscious is a stringent routine of pampering deserving of a deity.
For many goddesses, a night of rigorous self-care and self-love can be the difference between stressing over the small details and confidently conquering the day. A goddess truly cares for herself and spends time showing herself that. What better way than a luxy bubble bath complete with total mind, body and soul spoiling?
Below is the perfect recipe for A Mystical Bubble Bath that will reveal your inner goddess through pampering, intentional self-pleasure, energy cleansing and relaxation:
PH-Balanced Bubble Bath
I’ve come across many who have dubbed “bubble baths” adolescent, but in reality it can be luxurious, exfoliating, soothing and hydrating for skin as well as flooding the senses with transporting smells. The one difference about bubble-bathing as an adult woman, is that if you use a harsh soap on, or in this case, in the water around your vagina, you’re at risk of messing with the PH, which can lead to yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis. I’ve found that “By women, for women” companies are typically the best for anything that is going near a vagina, and Pure Romance is no exception.
Their entire line is female forward, but while I’ve seen competitors’ products, Pure Romance is the only brand that I have seen who have a PH-balanced bubble baths and for any yeast-infection prone, bath-obsessed woman, it’s a necessity.
https://www.pureromance.com/shop/bath-beauty/bath-shower/skinny-dip-exotic-jewell
Crystals to Cleanse Sexual Energy
I had my first sip of the “Crystal Koolaid” the first time I came with a rose-quartz dildo and now I feel an obligation to my body to rid the negative energy from it regularly. Between inconsistent lovers, the stress of work, and the fuckboys that run rampant in NYC, I notice that tension and stress can build up and prevent me from achieving the best release. Incorporating crystals into my masturbation has helped reduce that. I’m no scientist, so it may be just a placebo effect, but either way I feel lighter, more loving and happier after each time I use crystals inside me.
For the bathtub, I recommend a yoni egg as a bubble bath is a great time to get in touch with your sexual energy and become more in tune with your body.
http://www.chakrubs.com/amethyst-egg/
Vibrator
Self-love is essential for getting in touch with your inner Athena. Like many women, I need vibrations to reach orgasm. The Emojibator is small enough to fit in the pocket of my bathrobe and is waterproof so I don’t need to worry about it shorting mid-soak.
https://emojibator.com/products/emojibator
Bath Soak
I’m a total grandma for using this brand, but you can buy it in bulk at CVS, and for someone with a soaking tub, it’s not easy to keep stocked on the good stuff from Manhattan boutiques. I love Dr. Teals because it truly helps your muscles and the salts make your bathroom smell of de-stressing aroma. I’m also a huge believer in the benefits of Himalayan salts and will put Himalayan anything in my tub.
Sexy Vibes
There are few things that make you feel as sexy as luscious beats while being caressed by hot, soapy water flooded with bubbles. The right soundtrack can be the difference between awkwardly sloshing about in your tub to feeling like a queen in a captivating soak. The music allows you to take your mind off your other stresses and instead focus on the pampering you desperately deserve.
The best source of sexy beats: NSFW’s Soundcloud.
https://soundcloud.com/wearensfw
Crystal Smoking Accessories
Honestly, there’s nothing better than smoking in the bathtub, and I have lost count of how many perfectly good spliffs I have dropped in the tub with me. Because I typically keep a handful of crystals by my bathtub, this fits perfectly in with the crystal-theme of bathtime without ruining a full joint if my bubbly fingers turn slippery.
https://cosmicartillery.com/products/rose-quartz-crystal-pipe-1
Sage to Cleanse Toxic Energy
One of the first times I met Sophie Saint Thomas, she told me a story that involved a bubble bath, post-breakup cleansing rituals and sage that inspired me to go to Catland and pick up a bundle of white sage the next day. Ever since, I burn sage before each and every bubble bath. Maybe it’s the Italian in me, but I clean my tub before taking a bath (and I recommend you too), the sage is the final way to cleanse the bathroom and set the mood of clean energy, rid of the stress of a normal day.
http://www.catlandbooks.com/shop/white-sage-bundles
Candles
One of the best things I’ve ever done for my bubble baths was incorporate crystal healing and aroma through a variety of products, including the placebo effect from burning the crystal line of candles from DW Home (jury’s still out if there’s a healing component or not). When I am de-stressing and pampering myself, I like to overwhelm my senses with relaxing and captivating scents that transport me far from my everyday stresses. With candles by the bathtub, I can dim the lights to set a more smoldering and tranquil atmosphere.
https://www.dwhome.com/products/sparkling-amethyst
Alright, get to bubble-bathing my budding goddesses; even sinners need to cum clean.
