As comically messy my romantic life remains, I’ve grown a lot from therapy throughout the years. For one, I learned terms like an autonomous interdependent relationship. Say it with me: au·ton·o·mous in·ter·de·pend·ent relationship. A partnership between mutually reliant individuals who maintain their identities and agency. In layman’s terms, you do you—together.
It’s happy hour-ing with friends while your S.O. hashes out a creative project at home. It’s living fully when apart...then deep dishing about your day over thick crust pizza. And sometimes it’s a healthy dose of solo self-love. Ya feel me? Because I, like, really feel me.
Touching myself has become an important component of my sex routine. Sure, my current partner and I satisfy each other on the regular (humble brag). Yet I wonder, without it...would we?
To truly get down together, you need to know what’s up. What makes you quiver and moan? What melts away your inhibitions? Masturbation allows you to safely explore these questions and later share your discoveries with your partner. Even then, no one will ever have a more intimate relationship with your body than you. And that’s more than okay—in this masturbator’s opinion, that’s how it should be. Your pleasure is literally in your own hands. That’s empowering, and damn does it feel good.
Written by Paige Montes, copywriter for Karma Agency