By Rosie Raza
Ah, the multiple orgasm. Woman’s mysterious ability to have multiple orgasms is made only more fascinating by the difficulty to achieve them. The gift that keeps on giving for women from the sex-gods. Or perhaps their existence is a stroke of evolutionary luck. Whatever their origin, they’re one of nature’s most powerful and personal experiences, and if you have a vagina, it is definitely something you should try.
A multiple orgasm is a second (or third, or fourth, or fifth, etc.) orgasm before the relaxation stage of an orgasm’s cycle. In other words, a woman is still aroused from the previous orgasm. Subsequent orgasms usually happen anywhere from 15 seconds to 1 minute after the last.
But how does one achieve these waves of climactic joy? Can everyone with a vagina do it?
Before you start your journey to the promised land, you should know that only about 15% of women report the ability to have multiple orgasms. But don’t let that get you down, I actually consider this great news. Now that you know the likelihood of having multiple orgasms is low, the pressure is off. Just like a regular orgasm, putting pressure on yourself to achieve it may thwart your ability to get there.
The first time I had a multiple orgasm, I wasn’t trying to do it at all. I realized I was still turned on after my first orgasm, so I grabbed my vibrator because it felt good, and voila! Number two was in the books moments later. I’m telling you this because the importance of doing this to feel good –instead of trying to achieve a result– can’t be overstated. Say it with me: Pleasure not Pressure.
Step 1: After your first orgasm, recover for a few moments, then go right back at it with the techniques you like. Having multiple orgasms can be intense. In fact, the sensitivity of the clitoris is usually what keeps women from being able to have multiple orgasms. What feels good on round two might be different than what feels good on round one, so experiment. No judging.
Tip: If direct clitoral stimulation is too intense after your first orgasm, use your vibrator/hands to find a spot that gets to the clit indirectly, or use your g-spot instead. Or do both!
Step 2: Keep going or keep exploring. If you found that spot that feels so good you can’t leave, keep going: your next orgasm is likely right around the corner. Remember, it may only take 15 seconds. If you haven’t found that spot, search some more.
Step 3: Did you reach your next orgasm? Rejoice! Or why not go for the next one? The record for female orgasms is 134 in 60 minutes. Additional orgasms may not be as strong as the first (sometimes they feel like an “aftershock”), though they definitely can be.
Alternative Step 3: Did you not reach your next orgasm? Rejoice! Try again another time, or don’t.
Remember, there’s no meaning attached to your ability to multiply orgasm. Ditch any notions of worth you may have associated with the ability to be multi-orgasmic and use this time to have fun and pleasure yourself, without trying to reach any end goal. Either way, you can’t lose. Happy masturbating!